Courtesy & Humility Quizzes


This week we continue our worship series, “Recipe for Loving Relationships”. This week we will be discussing courtesy and humility. I invite you to take these short quizzes from Gary Chapman’s book, Love As a Way of Life, to assess yourself in practicing courtesy and humility. As you take the quizzes, consider your most common words and actions. As we take steps to grow in our life of love, it is important to realize where we are now.



Adapted from Love as a Way of Life by Gary Chapman

Answer the following questions on a scale from one to five, one being “rarely,” and five being “usually.”

  1. I send birthday cards and thank-you notes.
  1. I enjoy looking for ways to be polite to others.
  1. When someone gives me something I don’t need, I respond with genuine gratitude.
  1. I go out of my way to be courteous to the people I am closest to.
  1. I look for ways to be courteous to people who seem to be having a hard day.

Count up your answers. If your score is from twenty to twenty-five, you are well on your way to loving people through courtesy. If it’s lower, you might appreciate reminders about how courtesy is a way of recognizing the value of others.



Adapted from Love as a Way of Life by Gary Chapman

Humility in the abstract matters little; it’s how humbly we act in normal, everyday circumstances that determines whether we build up or tear down those we love. It’s worth considering how we would handle some true-to-life situations where we have a choice to act with pride or humility.

1. If someone else tells a story about something he achieved or acquired, I usually. . .

a. Interrupt to top his story with an even more impressive story about myself.

b. Say nothing but let my body language convey that I don’t think much of the story.

c. Show interest and ask questions.


2. At work, when higher-ups are around, I usually. . .

a. Try to make myself look good, even if it means taking credit for others’ accomplishments.

b. Mention my own work for the company, when given an opening.

c. Point out the contribution of others, while letting my own actions speak for themselves.


3. When a family member or close friend has achieved something in an area where I like to excel myself, I usually. . .

a. Find fault with her accomplishment and then try to turn the attention to myself.

b. Ignore her achievement.

c. Congratulate her and make sure others learn of what she has done.


4. If someone I dislike fails at something, I usually. . .

a. Consider how his failing might benefit me.

b. Casually mention the incident to someone else.

c. Look for an opportunity to affirm him.


5. When I become aware of a weakness or failing in myself, I usually. . .

a. Think about who might have contributed to the weakness.

b. Try not to think about it at all.

c. Take steps to correct that weakness in the future.


Give yourself zero points for each a answer, one point for each b answer, and two points for each c answer. The higher your score, the farther along you may be on the road to genuine humility.